Tuesday 2 September 2014

If you want ‘pingbacks’ from your Facebook friends, ping them

Tip #3

Reciprocate: Give, if you want to receive

Remember, the hand that takes can also give. Limiting your sense of value, only to what you receive, will leave you high and dry soon.

Have you noticed how winners win like bosses on Facebook? They have more likes on their images, their statuses are nothing short of a busy cafe, people read their notes, and their links look like a bunch of barnacles were sharing it across the entire internet, their opinions have more likes than others in discussion threads ETC.

These Facebook bosses are life of the party, the “interactors”, and the givers (not just suppliers of Likes!) and "influencers." They have more social capital.

How do they do it? They receive more, win more people on to their side because they give


No, they don't give because they want to get more. But simply, the way popular people interact are self-explanatory: They are decent, humorous, never crude, helpful, supportive, and most of all intelligent. Observe their how they interact with people and you'll get the idea.
They enjoy being a part of a community.

The difference between popular people on Facebook and popular Facebook people is this: The former loves being a part of any community; the latter loves being a part of Facebook community.

In other words, the popular people in the first category are popular on Facebook and real life. They are the life of the neighborhood. The popular profiles on Facebook are popular, mostly and generally, on yes, Facebook only. 

Example: Did you get ‘Likes’ from your new friend? Did you just receive a compliment on your photograph from a person you just added? Popular people are gracious. They don't leave it hanging like that. They respond like they have known the person since the age of the dinosaurs. They say, "Hey Matt, you been missing from the war on Facebook. Hope everything's good? Thanks for dropping in. Finally, you like my picture!"

They are genial. They are fun. They are not imposing They are affable. They are natural.   

Here is a small example of how you do it. Respond: Say a simple but gracious ‘thank you’ in response.

(Tip: Tag the person’s name. Calling someone by name has an emotive, respectful value. "Hey Jen, thank you, I am glad you think so!).

Or ‘That is so kind of you. I’m flattered the note gave you something to ponder about.’ Later, follow it up with a gift of your own. It will make the person feel acknowledged.

Note: Don’t jump to that person’s profile sooner as you get a Like / favorable comment / anything positive. Keep it natural or you’ll look like a drooling dog that was just shown a bone.

Note: Do so not because you received one earlier, but because you sincerely meant it. Don’t forget people can tell a drooling bootlicker from a genuine charmer. Bootlickers end up at the bottom of the social food chain while real people continue their reign on the popularity charts. The difference is in being decent, and natural.

When you ‘meet’ that person in your news-feed or in a group somewhere later, return the good turn; offer a compliment, give a Like, appreciate a note, share a link he posted et al

I have seen a lot of people from my community who seem to leave their friends talking to themselves on their statuses, for instance.

Or liking something the owner won’t even bother to return to respond. They respond only to persons who are, say well-known, or popular.


Never stick to just your coterie and cronies if you wish to make friends. Suffice to say, playing favorites means your stock of friends will thin out gradually until you return to your glorious days of posting 100 I-am-so-lonely-nobody-loves-me' meme every one minute.

Interaction is not just having conversations online or “inboxing.” Interaction is also about using the ‘means of connect.’ Write back, write in, comment, respond, Like, Poke, Tag images, appreciate, converse and debate (decently). 
It is the connect factor here. 
Give, if you wish to receive more. Even dishing out 1 million chips or a life to your poker buddies and Candy crush friends counts too!

That’s giving. You’ll receive in time. Such connections normally turn online friends into real life friends.    

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