How to make real friends out of your new Facebook friends – and keep them

Long title, is it not? Yes, friendship is as complicated. Making new friends and building friendship were once priorities that fed solely off community traditions and social etiquette: regular phone calls, dinners, dates, et al. That institution stood strong until Facebook intruded–it has demystified social taboos and introduced new dynamics into the ages-worth of electives about friendship.

Phones and dinners are still indispensable. However, the social networking site’s offer of proximity and accessibility has relieved relational proscriptions.

Unfortunately, the portal is also responsible for lulling the good expectations into relational complacence: a user may have thousands of friends but barely enough friendships with any of them to be worth enough for him to log in everyday.

Such a user contrasts another who has only few friends (met on Facebook) in his list but shares a deep, personal connection with almost everyone there.

The Stars and the Mortals

What if you could befriend new people, unwrap and find real friends in them? Have you ever wished taking your friends-list into the real world? If you are a celebrity / an accomplished person, your chances of increasing the number of new ‘friends’ are way higher than others–friend requests will come to you.

Likewise, the extent of effort you will have to exert and the opportunity to exerting them, are also as high, at least in mechanic terms – you will get noticed and people generally respond when you reach out by virtue that you are well-known.

Unfortunately, not everyone is a well known person with a list of accomplishments to fall back on. Many have had to try harder at both adding people and seeking opportunities to connecting with them. 

Here are some tips for you if you desire to exact both quantity and quality out of your friends-list. Most of these tips are from personal experience, or more precisely, by trial-and-error! We had no ‘How to make 50, 000 friends on Facebook’ tutorials way back circa 2000s. I opened a Facebook account in 2007. If you wish to, I would be glad to join my small world on Facebook. You will find me here at my new account.

For convenience, I will be positing a tip a day here. If you are interested, keep checking in for subsequent tips. They will include 'connection protocols' and how to employ them, solving boy-girl issues, how to write effective emails to new friends in your list, ETC. 

Here are the tips that might just help you turn the people you added as ‘friends’ into real friends, and keep them.

(Please click on the links. A single post would have been extremely long so I've listed them as separate posts. Blogger has no pagination features, bad!)

Tip #1
Be Polite: Courtesy out from among Cavemen  

Tip #2
How to Not Scare off your new Facebook Friends with the 'You' 

Tip# 3
The Pingback Method: Give if you want to receive